Is your childhood trauma getting in the way of your success?

Do you find yourself pouring more and more energy into your business, family life or relationships only to find there is almost zero energy being given back to you? No reward or evidence of your efforts paying off?

Are you tired of feeling fed up, exhausted and endlessly slogging away wondering just what the hell is the point in all of this?

If yes, I’ve been where you are.

Firstly, I want you to think about your exact problem. What outcome are you unable to achieve despite your best efforts?

Next I want you to ask yourself, why did I want this in the first place? What is so important to my being and existence that would make me pour this much effort into something that is bearing little to no fruit for me?

And this is usually where the beginning of your journey is found, the aha moment if you will.

You see, when I asked myself why I needed to be a successful business owner. The answer I gave was because I wanted to be able to afford to be a more present Dad when the time came and to be able to provide for the rest of the family so they didn’t have to worry about anything else other than making sure our home life was perfect… That would help me build the family life I never had growing up. You might think how noble, doesn’t everyone want that?

You see, if you’re anything like me and had a challenging childhood that you allowed to shape your entire outlook on life, what you’ll probably find is that you’ve created a set of beliefs from a place of lack.

“I want x because x wasn’t available to me as a child.”

It’s funny, even now as I look at that statement in its most bear form, it actually looks like a child wrote it.

It doesn’t matter what happened to you as a child, not to say it didn’t happen or that you felt the long lasting effects of those experiences but imagine for a second none of it happened. Would you still want the same things? My guesses would be yes, but the reasoning for you wanting it would probably be very different.

And this is where and how we can find ease in our pursuits.

When the wounded child version of you is driving the car you’ll believe you want something in life for a particular reason, something that is linked to an emotion that is probably laced in lack, fear or scarcity. When an adult who isn’t suffering wants something, they’ll want it because it’s nice to have nice things and they feel they deserve it. I wonder which of these two people will get the thing they want.

Trauma often drives the adult who’s 4 year old wounded self is still driving the car to hell and back in pursuit of the ‘thing.’ Meanwhile the universe does exactly what the universe does and mirrors you. The universe knows you, the wonderful you that you were before you went through any kind of hardship. A divine being of light who’s abundant, loved and even love itself. To see you hurting and lacking and wanting things from a place of hurt is not how the universe sees you, so it keeps what you want at the end of your fingertips and watches you suffer just like you believe you already are.

It’s not until we turn and face our wounds, process them and realise that in fact we are not wounded do we get everything we could have ever dreamed of and more.

This is exactly what I help people do.

It’s painful, heartbreaking & beautiful beyond words.

Life is abundant & the universe supports you unconditionally, how annoying, how fantastic.